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Something is just off about her.  You cannot put your finger on it, but you suspect she is different.  She takes longer to get things done when she does not get her way.  She makes things more complicated than necessary and avoids difficult conversations.  It is subtle but noticeable.  On the surface, she seems confident, yet you detect an underlying fragility. 

The Mayo Clinic defines a narcissistic personality disorder as "a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism."

The typical narcissist is more easily spotted.  However, the passive-aggressive narcissist is challenging to identify.  According to Psychology Today, many narcissists come across as openly grandiose and outwardly intrusive. Some narcissists utilize passive-aggressive tactics as a primary way of fulfilling their selfish needs or to exact "punishment" on those who fail to cater to their whims.

These latent narcissists become secretly hostile when things do not go their way.  They devise subversive plans to make people around them miserable when they do not get what they deserve.  Following are some diagnostics to understand better the person you are dealing with at work.

The first diagnostic is secret sabotage.  These people fail to meet commitments or agreements with what seems to be justifiable reasoning.  They harm the team by interjecting information disguised as something helpful.  They deliberately act in ways that hurt team chemistry. Furthermore, they repeatedly poison situations with what appears to be something necessary.

Another tendency for passive-aggressive narcissists is...

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